Everyday when I look at my younger sister and see that she is growing up so fast I feel a responsibility to take care of her and make sure she turns out okay and if possible make sure she avoids all the mistakes I made. I think every older person feels this responsible towards younger people or at least I like to believe that we all do. Children are our future, they are fertile ground to plant good seeds. Inasmuch as we are also growing daily, we shouldn’t feel incompetent in passing whatever experience and revelation of God that we have gathered over time.
“As parents were not raising babies, we’re raising adults.”
Marian Robinson, Michelle Obama’s mother.
How do we take care of them?
In my opinion, we as a society are responsible for every vice we have in our communities today, especially parents. We need to talk to young people as individuals, not feeble minded little humans that don’t know anything. There are some things that children shouldn’t learn from their peers or TV, it should come from an informed and mature adult.
Don’t think that children are too young for serious topics. It’s about consistency. Most ideas are solidified over time, so if today you have the opportunity to talk about money and business, talk about it and next time the opportunity presents itself, do it again. Talk about finances, about hardwork, politics, life, people interactions, sex, relationships, love, God, career paths, social media. They are not too young. Educate them.
Another way to educate younger ones is through books, buy them good books, books that helped you, books that changed your life. Let them read, let them be aware of the things around them, let them develop a sense of the world and with time they would have gathered enough to be able to make objective and intelligent choices.
Perphaps the best way to educate a younger one is to be educated. I’ll say that again; THE BEST WAY TO EDUCATE A YOUNGER ONE IS TO BE EDUCATED, so please get educated on certain issues.
Let their voices be heard
We often shut children and teenagers down when they ask questions, this should not be. Let them talk. The bible says out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks(Luke 6:45) so you can easily tell the content of a child’s or anyone’s heart by what they say. Let them talk, let them ask their questions. If by chance you don’t know the answer tell them you don’t know, tell them adults don’t know everything and if you can, tell them you’ll find out the answer for them.
Everyone wants to feel like they are being listened to, including children so don’t shut them down, let them speak.
Don’t indulge them
Don’t say because a child is a child you will let bad behaviour slide, if you are doing that, you are what is wrong with the world. With kids, you are building and grooming a future leader so if they are being rude, and they are your child or your younger sibling (that is, you have authority over them) you have a responsibility to discipline them and let them know they have done something wrong. Same as with any other unacceptable character traits. Don’t assume that they will just magical change when they grow older, they won’t. They will get worse, because by then they would have settled into their character.
Even children show what they are by what they do; you can tell if they are honest and good. Proverbs 20:11 GNT
Don’t be the adult that let’s things slide all in the name of kids being kids. Kids eventually become adults. Rapist, thieves, fraudsters etc were all once kids. Somebody somehow somewhere failed to train them well, don’t be that someone for some other kid.It is better for a child to be too good than for him to be just a little bad. If there’s an extreme you want your child or young one to fall into, it should be in goodness.
As much as I have said that kids are individuals and not just little humans, they also can’t tell their left from their right so we should protect them. Don’t let children sip beer, don’t take teenagers to clubs, don’t let children watch porn, don’t be an enemy of progress. For crying out loud don’t leave a young girl alone with a group of guys and say they are friends, she’s having fun. Don’t leave a boy around street criminals and say they are teaching him sense. What sense please? The kind of sense that made them criminals? Please be responsible. Even if you as an adult have decided to live your life a particular way, try and try hard to keep the younger ones out of harm’s way.
If you see a minor in trouble, don’t look away, be their saving grace. Try your best to guard them against society’s evils till they can make their own decisions. The truth is if we do a good job of protecting our kids, they are more likely to make good choices. So even if by chance in the future they are exposed to evil they will stand their ground and say no.
Children are a gift, they are our chance to save the future, let’s do well by them and take care of them as much as we can.