Aburo: What Does It Really Mean To Take Care of Our Young?

Everyday when I look at my younger sister and see that she is growing up so fast I feel a responsibility to take care of her and make sure she turns out okay and if possible make sure she avoids all the mistakes I made. I think every older person feels this responsible towards younger people or at least I like to believe that we all do. Children are our future, they are fertile ground to plant good seeds. Inasmuch as we are also growing daily, we shouldn’t feel incompetent in passing whatever experience and revelation of God that we have gathered over time.

“As parents were not raising babies, we’re raising adults.”

Marian Robinson, Michelle Obama’s mother.

How do we take care of them?

Educate them

In my opinion, we as a society are responsible for every vice we have in our communities today, especially parents. We need to talk to young people as individuals, not feeble minded little humans that don’t know anything. There are some things that children shouldn’t learn from their peers or TV, it should come from an informed and mature adult.

Don’t think that children are too young for serious topics. It’s about consistency. Most ideas are solidified over time, so if today you have the opportunity to talk about money and business, talk about it and next time the opportunity presents itself, do it again. Talk about finances, about hardwork, politics, life, people interactions, sex, relationships, love, God, career paths, social media. They are not too young. Educate them.

Another way to educate younger ones is through books, buy them good books, books that helped you, books that changed your life. Let them read, let them be aware of the things around them, let them develop a sense of the world and with time they would have gathered enough to be able to make objective and intelligent choices.
Perphaps the best way to educate a younger one is to be educated. I’ll say that again; THE BEST WAY TO EDUCATE A YOUNGER ONE IS TO BE EDUCATED, so please get educated on certain issues.

Let their voices be heard

We often shut children and teenagers down when they ask questions, this should not be. Let them talk. The bible says out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks(Luke 6:45) so you can easily tell the content of a child’s or anyone’s heart by what they say. Let them talk, let them ask their questions. If by chance you don’t know the answer tell them you don’t know, tell them adults don’t know everything and if you can, tell them you’ll find out the answer for them.
Everyone wants to feel like they are being listened to, including children so don’t shut them down, let them speak.

Don’t indulge them

Don’t say because a child is a child you will let bad behaviour slide, if you are doing that, you are what is wrong with the world. With kids, you are building and grooming a future leader so if they are being rude, and they are your child or your younger sibling (that is, you have authority over them) you have a responsibility to discipline them and let them know they have done something wrong. Same as with any other unacceptable character traits. Don’t assume that they will just magical change when they grow older, they won’t. They will get worse, because by then they would have settled into their character.
Even children show what they are by what they do; you can tell if they are honest and good.
Proverbs 20:11 GNT

Don’t be the adult that let’s things slide all in the name of kids being kids. Kids eventually become adults. Rapist, thieves, fraudsters etc were all once kids. Somebody somehow somewhere failed to train them well, don’t be that someone for some other kid.It is better for a child to be too good than for him to be just a little bad. If there’s an extreme you want your child or young one to fall into, it should be in goodness.

Protect them.

As much as I have said that kids are individuals and not just little humans, they also can’t tell their left from their right so we should protect them. Don’t let children sip beer, don’t take teenagers to clubs, don’t let children watch porn, don’t be an enemy of progress. For crying out loud don’t leave a young girl alone with a group of guys and say they are friends, she’s having fun. Don’t leave a boy around street criminals and say they are teaching him sense. What sense please? The kind of sense that made them criminals? Please be responsible. Even if you as an adult have decided to live your life a particular way, try and try hard to keep the younger ones out of harm’s way.

If you see a minor in trouble, don’t look away, be their saving grace. Try your best to guard them against society’s evils till they can make their own decisions. The truth is if we do a good job of protecting our kids, they are more likely to make good choices. So even if by chance in the future they are exposed to evil they will stand their ground and say no.
Children are a gift, they are our chance to save the future, let’s do well by them and take care of them as much as we can.
Love & Love —O

One Week of Urology [Surgery, Osogbo]

I won’t even sugarcoat it ehn, the week started rough. Leaving home 7:30am, returning 9:30pm rough. I was pissed for the most part. But even more than being pissed, I was hungry and tired and seriously contemplating this whole med school thing as a whole, haha, which I now do often. Don’t get me wrong, there are moments and even full on days when med school is glorious, few but those days exist. There are also days like Monday when you just wonder what made me do this to myself? What am I looking for? I was on my feet from around 9am till around 4pm without food, listening to my consultant yap on and on about all sorts (better I don’t get into that), most of which were needless information if you ask me, but no one’s asking me right? Moving on.

Look how tired and burnt out we look on a Monday??!!

Urology, also known as genitourinary surgery, is the branch of medicine that focuses on surgical and medical diseases of the male and female urinary-tract system and the male reproductive organs. —Google

So as you can imagine I saw a lot of penises much to my dismay but I’m getting used to it, and I witnessed many digital rectal exams (where doctors stick their finger in someone butt for examination purposes). I strongly feel that studying medicine or being a doctor has a way of just stripping you of your humanity all for the good of saving humanity, so maybe that’s alright.

Tuesday was our first day in the theatre, scrubs and all. I loved it. Not everyone did, with good cause; surgery is gross and looks very painful for the patient, even though they are being sedated. For the longest time I’ve dreamt about being a surgeon but when I got to see a procedure up close I was not so sure I’d enjoy cutting someone open. Doctors are lowkey superheros. People say doctors are proud, well I think some degree of pride is needed to do what they do everyday. Can you confidently cut someone open on a table and be responsible for their life? See? Pride is required.

You’re probably wondering why it’s always me and this friend of mine. Lol.

We also stole a look at General Surgery’s splenectomy. The spleen was massive. Wanna see?

Wednesday was wardround, filled with many many remarkable insults and stories. Lol. This is the bulk of medical school really; listening to senior colleagues wash you down in the name of training you. It’s not all bad though, I would be lying if I made you believe that. They teach us too, and make us laugh. After wardround, we had a series of presentations that lasted 4 hours. Then, we went for call and watched them install a chest tube for a patient. Found out that we lost the patient a few minutes after that. Urgh. These are some of the annoying things that happen in the hospital. Why should someone endure the pain and stress of putting in a chest tube and still die? Why?

Thursday, a bladder biopsy** was taken through an endoscope*** through the phallus. If you don’t know what I mean by phallus then you probably don’t need or want to know. There were lots of screams and shouts from that operating room that morning. From there we reported at the clinic. It was a relatively short/good day. I went home and saw the acclaimed Genevieve Nnaji Film, Lionheart with my mom. It was a cinematic delight on all counts. Should I do a review?

Friday; The day of Biopsies. Matter of fact I am watching one as I write this. It’s not an ugly procedure but its a painful one. Hopefully after this they will let us go home (UPDATE: They did!). We’ve been told to come to the hospital tomorrow, a Saturday, even though we are not on call.

I am learning to take every circumstance with optimism and not complain, believing that all things will eventually work for my good and besides, a thousand or more people would kill to be me right now, a part 4 medical student. There’s much to be thankful and proud of. God has been super good.

My beautiful classmates.

Moving on to Ortho next week.

Have a great weekend everyone!

Love & Love —O

*A splenectomy is the surgical procedure that partially or completely removes the spleen.

**A biopsy is a medical test commonly performed by a surgeon, interventional radiologist, or an interventional cardiologist involving extraction of sample cells or tissues for examination to determine the presence or extent of a disease.

***Endoscopic surgery uses scopes going through small incisions or natural body openings in order to diagnose and treat disease

Ref: Wikipedia

Why Now is The Perfect Time to Live a “Boring” Life

There is a giant secret people do not like to talk about and it is the fact that rich people, I mean the kind of rich you dream about, the kind of rich that would make people say you’re greedy, the utterly ridiculously rich – not their children now; they themselves – are not on Facebook telling you how rich they are. They are in real life, working or resting. Savouring every single ounce of the world, while most of us, live, breathe, shit, eat, in a parallel universe called the internet. I just thought I should let you know that people that make real money, do not make social media their playground. The world itself, is, their playground.

If you want to be great, learn to gather the world by it’s helms and observe. If you want to be rich with not only money now, but to be a rich human being in substance and wit, you must learn that the time you have is neither short nor long. It’s just time. It’s a river that flows and the way to hold it is to make moments; real ones, with real people and real things. It’s like making new routes for the water to flow, so you can always return there, and swim. 

Do not be lost in the fakeness of the digital world that you are unaware of what is right beneath your nose. Do you know why our country is so divided? it’s because we are fond of comparing ourselves with others and hey, we have good reasons to, but that doesn’t make it a useful thing to do. The bible says those that compare themselves are not wise (2 Corinthians 10:12). We should watch, if we must, those better than us and learn, actively learn, not compare, not run away. And do you know the best fuel of comparison of any form? It’s social media; Facebook, Instagram and the like. It belittles the value of a person to numbers. When you look at your follower-count and you see five, you forget that those are actually five people, five human beings, alive and well, blessed with incredible and diverse attributes. All of that loses meaning because somebody somewhere has 55.5k followers. And you involuntarily attach some kind of value to that.

To gain popularity and a name of sorts on these platforms you are encouraged to live an eventful (but let’s be honest, eventful is not the same thing as interesting, because interests are largely relative and personal but that’s talk for some other time) life. Party, smoke, buy cars or at least pose beside dope cars, claim to be an entrepreneur, dress like the next wizkid, display tattoos. Let me tell you, super influential people in the world, do not try to make a lasting impression on the internet, they are busy, doing it for real and then other people (could even be you) bring their stories online. They don’t publicize themselves, their work publicizes them.

Things that last take time, and commitment and have I mentioned time? A truck load of it. Malcom Gladwell said it takes at least 10000 hours to become a master at something. Let me write it words;ten thousand hours bruh. It’s not chin chin. If you want to be good, please live a “boring life” and focus. Prepare.

Malcolm Gladwell

Jesus prepared for thirty years what he had just three years to do. Don’t waste time on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. Please. And stop jumping from one relationship to the other. It is not a race abeg. Nobody is going to ask you how many people you fell in love with in your lifetime. This is the time to get stuff done. To get your crap together. You are young, this is incubator time. This is the time to be boring, to take every opportunity seriously. Every opportunity. Laser focus. I don’t just mean in relation to work but with everyday experiences, learn to be present. When you gist with your friends, gist and laugh well. Enjoy the moment. When you are with family, do the same. That is how to live a full life. Be pro life. So that when you are about to die you will have much more than snippets of your Facebook outbursts and messes or the time you reached 100k followers. See, have you ever actually thought about what you have to offer those 100k people, since all you really have are just super edited selfies to hid the pimples that have made a home on your face?

Success does not jump on people, they prepare.

Live a boring life, if you don’t want to die young. And if you don’t care about dying – you just want to enjoy your life, I have a message for you: trust me, you actually care. You actually do. You don’t need lung cancer or any other health crisis. You yourself, you know. Those things are afflictions and they do not only afflict your body, they invade ever part of your life including your wallet. So, no, again you don’t need that. You need life, oxygen in your lungs. You need Jesus Christ and don’t lie to yourself, there’s nothing wrong with having money too, lots and lots of it.

Speak to yourself, focus and concentrate on the future you want and start working on bringing it to life, don’t do that by ignoring the present either, the journey is part of the joy of reaching the destination safely. In the end it will not be the end product that defines you, but the process. Now, as a sign that you haven’t wasted the last three minutes reading this, don’t go and update your status saying something like “Future things on my mind”. Please, don’t. Don’t tell us. Just do it. And remember; things that last take time. Be patient. Be boring.

In reality, being conscious of the times [future+present] isn’t, in the least, boring. But that is what society and preoccupation with the internet has led us to believe, so it isn’t that much of a big deal, if for the sake of a full life, well lived, I am called boring. So be it; I’m all about that boring life.

Love & love—O

The Highs & Lows of 9 Weeks [Internal] Medicine 1 Posting in Medical School

November 2018, I started my first clinical posting in the dry and cold city of Ogbomosho and it lasted all of 7 weeks, although ending in Osogbo. Clinical Posting in Nigerian medical schools start at year 4, it involves going to the hospital and shadowing senior doctors. My school is peculiar in that we have two teaching hospitals, so we usually split the hospital rotations period into two but we initially spend 2 weeks on campus attending intensive lectures before then. The total duration of each posting as proposed by Medical and Dental Council of Nigeria is 8 weeks, but the title of the article says 9 weeks right? Well, I’ll tell you all about that soon.

View from Male Medical Ward, 3rd floor, LTH Ogbomosho.

Let’s start with the lows, so we can get over it and quickly move on to the happy parts.



There’s tiredness and then there’s fatigue. I was fatigued for most of this posting, I slept like a log of wood every night. I’m one of those people that can’t function properly without a good night rest so most times I choose sleeping over studying. No regrets whatsoever. I tried my best to maximize the day time though.

After a very long day…

Waking up early every morning and getting back as late as 10pm sometimes only to wake up and do the same again can really get to you after some time but hey, thank God we scaled through and I’m learning ways to keep my energy levels up all day. Lol. Pray for me.


There’s no nice way to say it, the hospital environment sucks. Quite frankly, I hate it. There are people in pain, people bed ridden, it’s sad place to go to work every single day. Urghhh, it can make life seem so gloomy. The only consolation is when our patients get better and they get to go home but another sad truth is that sometimes they die and it hurts. Nothing makes watching someone die less painful or sad, or maybe I just haven’t been completely desensitised yet.

It made going to school hard for me, cause even to make people feel better you have to inflict some amount of pain. Don’t even get me started on all the sad stories you hear and how poor people are. It’s sad, it’s sad. Liking the hospital environment is a huge challenge for me, I try to tell myself it’s also a place to make a difference and help people sometimes it works and takes the gloom away, other times not so much.


I’ve noticed medical school changes people. It moulds and panel beats you into who it wants you to be. The training can be brutal. It can make you mean and cold and apathetic to life and people. There’s the place of being intentional about being happy and remaining soft and not transferring aggression. It a hard thing to do.

My beautiful friend & I

Medicine can steal your identity and blend you into this person that you don’t know anymore. Medical students will understand this. I often tell myself that medicine isn’t all there is to me, that I can do other things with myself and I don’t have to define myself by just being a medical student. Of course, it’s impossible to do with some areas of my life but instances where I can choose and decide how to react or behave, I make an effort to not allow my (negative) experiences in medical school influence my actions.

For example in medical school, you are constantly being put down, you never know enough and you’re never doing enough and this can really mess up your mindset to people’s efforts and even your own work. It can depreciate your ability to be kind. Often times one must be rebellious to the system to remain of “good character”.


Keeping the momentum was a monstrous mountain that I was unable to climb and I don’t think anyone can (I stand to be corrected). I’ve realized it isn’t really about that though, its about getting up and keeping at it whenever you can. There will be days of slacking as there were for me many times, but then when I’m done slacking, I got back at it.

It’s wrong to slack and stay slack. The mistake is to give up and say because you slack, you’re a slacker and a failure. Abeg. You’re just human. Take some time to rest and get back on. Some of the times I felt lowest were because I was thinking about how much work I had to do and how I couldn’t do it because I was tired or sick or had no motivation and so I fell deeper and deeper into doing nothing. It became a vicious cycle.

The best thing to do when you have something to do is to just do it and if you truly can’t, then don’t, do it when you can. Nothing will happen, I’m telling you. The important thing is to keep making good decisions in the right direction, and sometimes that means rest.


The People

The best part of medical school is hands down, the people. I don’t even know how to talk about all the amazing people I got to know and make friends with. The people made it worth it. The people made it wonderful when everything else was otherwise. If you guys are reading this, THANK YOU SO MUCH!

My Ogbomosho people

Performing Procedures

I got to take blood samples. Yay! It’s a big deal. Haha. Not really. And I got to interact with many patients. I was so happy the day I took blood samples for some reason. I guess that’s how you know you’re a med student; when you’re happy that you poked someone with a needle and drew their blood. Wow. Who am I really?

My Osogbo people.

Learning Medicine

It was fun and interesting getting to understand medicine on a practical level. It changes the way you see people, especially sick people. It makes you feel smart. Haha. When I try out things I learnt in school on my sister she always looks at me in some otherworldly awe. Those are the little things that sorta makes studying medicine worth it.

Candid taken by a friend, looking very doctor-y for some reason.

Appreciating Physicians

I don’t think people understand how much stress doctors withstand everyday. It is alarming, especially in Nigeria. I’m not exaggerating. The working conditions are crappy, saying the least. I am a student and I’m almost always crushed by all there is to do, now to imagine that these people have families of their own and responsibilities that I can’t even imagine yet some of them still do their job with grace and good will, ah I give it to them: Well Freaking Done! Being around doctors for about two months has granted me some respect for all the sacrifices they’ve made for years and those they continue to make everyday. It makes me think this is a good cause after all.

I said I was going to tell you why the posting lasted 9 weeks instead of 8. Well, we went on a 10-day Christmas and New Year break and for that they added one more week to our posting as punishment. Med school can be crazy like that. Eh. The break was worth it though, no regrets on that count.

I’m glad it’s over, up next is Surgery and I am excited! Wish me luck!

Love & love—O

5 Things To Keep in Mind When Studying Your Bible

Reading the bible is an important practice for anyone who wants to grow as a believer and anyone who wants to know God. For most of us, studying the bible still feels like a chore that does not flow naturally. Here are a few mindset changes that might help to fix that.

Nothing is irrelevant.

The bible is a big book, no doubt.  There are 66 books and 1,189 chapters. That’s a lot and can lead you to think some things are probably not all that important, especially when you get into the thick of the old testament, it can get very tedious and confusing but it helps to remember that every word in the bible is for our blessing. I really like the way Jackie Hill Perry puts it on her Instagram;

Nothing in the Bible is pointless. Including geneologies, epistolary greetings, and even the long, seemingly drab list of Levitical laws. It only feels unnecessary if you don’t believe that ALL of scripture is God breathed and PROFITABLE. God wrote it all, even the “boring” parts.


Everything matters, from the name of cities to the number of cattle and donkey to the days of the week. Everything is important and if that’s the case we better pay attention when we study God’s word.

Jesus is at the centre.

Everything makes sense in the light of Jesus as the centre of all scripture. Jesus brings everything together quite perfectly, like he said of himself that he is the fulfilment of the law (Matthew 5:17) and we all remember that experience on the mountain, the infamous transfiguration;

Six days later Jesus took Peter and the two brothers, James and John, and led them up a high mountain to be alone. As the men watched, Jesus’ appearance was transformed so that his face shone like the sun, and his clothes became as white as light. Suddenly, Moses and Elijah appeared and began talking with Jesus. Peter exclaimed, “Lord, it’s wonderful for us to be here! If you want, I’ll make three shelters as memorials —one for you, one for Moses, and one for Elijah.” But even as he spoke, a bright cloud overshadowed them, and a voice from the cloud said, “This is my dearly loved Son, who brings me great joy. Listen to him.”

Matthew 17:1-5

This is God telling us who to listen to, this is God telling us the final authority on things of God; Jesus Christ. We see and read everything from a perspective of Jesus and everything he stands for. When we keep this in mind, we will not read into the weaknesses of mere human beings as the evil of God as seen in many acts of cruelty in the old testament. In Christ we see God as he truly is—good and loving—from the beginning just as it says in Hebrews 1;

Long ago God spoke many times and in many ways to our ancestors through the prophets. And now in these final days, he has spoken to us through his Son. God promised everything to the Son as an inheritance, and through the Son he created the universe. The Son radiates God’s own glory and expresses the very character of God, and he sustains everything by the mighty power of his command. When he had cleansed us from our sins, he sat down in the place of honor at the right hand of the majestic God in heaven.

Hebrews 1:1-3 NLT

So next time you pick up your bible to read, remember who it is all ultimately about.

It will require your whole heart & your whole brain.

The one thing I can say medical school has taught me is that nothing beats real concentration and it will always show in my results if I don’t give my whole heart to learning something. That’s how it is with the word of God too, when we read we need to approach it as students who want and need to grow. It is not something we do passively. We do it wholeheartedly and with our whole brains as well. We let the Holy spirit permeate our brains and reveal things to us. We think through scripture,  we think about how it applies to us in our everyday life, we think about how we are going to use it and how we can practicalize it.

It isn’t just something we do to cross off our to-do list. It is the most important part of our day. Studying the word is serious business, we wont get much out of it if we treat it any less.

It will take some time.

In my experience, studying the bible and getting real revelation from it can be a true test of commitment. Just like it says in Jeremiah 29:13, If you look for God wholeheartedly, you will find Him.

This will take some time. There’s no crash course or shortcut to studying the bible for yourself. If you are looking for something extraordinary to happen physically whenever you read the bible then you are setting yourself up for massive disappointment.

God works by growing us, and authentic growth takes time. Sometimes you might not see so much reason or insight in what you are reading until months later when someone asks you a question on a certain topic and you just see that the Holy Spirit brings that passage to your remembrance.

Be prepared to take your bible studying as a life long relationship and a day to day devotion. Spend all the time you can devouring scripture, you are planting seeds that will eventually grow and yield fruits.

It is a Spirit Exercise.

Like one of my friends once said “we need God to know God“. It takes the Holy Spirit to understand scripture and draw revelation from the bible. It’s not just words on paper, it’s spirit and life (John 6:63). The bible is Jesus himself, right here, right now with us. 

The Holy spirit is promised to us to make all things clear and simple. If we treat studying the bible like it’s a physical exercise, there’s only so much we can get from time spent. When we read we should invite, trust and depend on the Holy Spirit to teach and open our eyes to see something new and have him meet our needs.

The scripture says… “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him.” But it was to us that God revealed these things by his Spirit. For his Spirit searches out everything and shows us God’s deep secrets.

1 Corinthians 2:9-10 NLT


I pray this helps you enjoy your personal bible study time more and grow in the revelation of the unimaginable love of our Lord Jesus Christ. I love you guys!

What are some of the things you keep in mind to make sure you get the best out of your studying the Bible?

19 Ways To Stay Alive, Happy & Sane in 2019

Happy New Year beautiful people!

By now all your resolutions have been  made and the new year euphoria is already waning, so it feels like a perfect time to put this article out knowing you’d not be preoccupied by unrealistic expectations for the new year. The smoke has cleared and the year isn’t so much new. In that light, let’s get real.

I have highlighted 19 ways to stay  alive, happy and sane throughout the year. I hope this will be a place you can return to during tough times as the year progresses and find some helpful solutions.

Lose the comparison

The popular saying goes comparison is the thief of joy. We all have personal experiences to prove that saying true. Let’s all choose to be content this time around. Let’s guard our eyes and hearts. There’s no need to compare, nothing gained whatsoever. Let’s be so consumed with growing and getting better that the thought of comparison is absolutely absurd to us. There so much to do with ourselves this year, there’s no time to waste on frivolities.

Don’t give up, try again.

You will fail at quite a number of things this year as is with every year, everyday even but don’t give up, try again. Don’t be so easily swayed, so easily discouraged. Find the strength to rise again and take on your challenges head on, even if it yields nothing eventually,  it would have taught you a thing or two and made you better.

Embrace the mundane and little things

Not until I started spending alot of time in the hospital by virtue of studying medicine did I notice that I take so many little things for granted, like painless movement and clear skin. There’s alot of sadness in the world, but there’s also a lot of good and most times we are so engrossed with the bad that we do not even see the good at all. Let’s enjoy all the goodness of life, the sun, the stars, flowers, all the wonders of nature. Theres so much to stop and enjoy.

Buy less

Really evaluate your buying this year. Are you living above your means? Are you indebted most of the time, are you broke most of the time? Minimize spending this year. Spend on what matters, don’t spend to impress. If you buy less you can save more and plan better for future expenses and investments.

Sleep more

Here are 10 benefits of sleeping more;

  1. Reduces stress.
  2. It can lower your blood pressure.
  3. Improves your memory. 
  4. Sleep can help you maintain your weight.
  5. Sleep can reduce your chances of getting diabetes and other diseases.
  6. Improves your mood.
  7. It helps your body fight of infections.
  8. Keeps your heart healthy.
  9. Sleep can be a painkiller. 
  10. Sleep helps you recharge.

Dress better

Yes, I said it. This is not the year to look shabby. Look your best. I don’t mean you should change your wardrobe or rob a bank. I am just saying you should be presentable. Be neat. Dress up like you are going to meet opportunities when you step out the door. The first impression people have of you is your appearance so make sure it’s a good one. And besides, looking good boosts your confidence.  

Drink more water

Here are 10 reasons you should drink more water:

  1. Increased energy levels.
  2. increased metabolism
  3. Helps build and repair muscles.
  4. Drinking water fights bad breath.
  5. Regulates internal body temperature.
  6. Flushes out toxins.
  7. Zero calorie benefits.
  8. Boosts your immune system.
  9. Keeps your skin fresh.
  10. Promotes weight loss

Live Bold

Come out of your cocoon this year. Be confident about who you are. Stand strong. Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity (1 Timothy 4:12 NLT).

Pay attention to your mind feed

Don’t you think it’s interesting that social media calls their timeline a feed. It’s almost like they are robbing the power they have over us in our faces. Be careful what you are putting in your mind. Pay attention, don’t just let anything in, eventually those things determine the way you behave. Towards the end of 2018, I reviewed the people I was following on social media, just to see if I really needed to be following them, if they were bringing any value into my life. What you feed your mind with, whether its social media, music, movies, books, sermons, gossips is who you are. I encourage you to be more sensitive and protective of your mind.

Be a thank-you cloud

Rain down thank-yous. Thank everyone. Thank God every minute. As long as you are breathing free oxygen, mutter a thank you. Let me tell you, nobody owes you anything. No body. Not a kind word, not a compliment, nothing, not even your parents. You could have been aborted. Be grateful. Gratitude increases the value of what you have. It boosts your confidence. Let your year be a thank full one.

Don’t half-heart anything

Halfheartedness has helped no one accomplish anything worthwhile ever. The bible says we should work whole heartedly as unto the Lord (Colossians 3:23). Let your work be commendable, put your whole heart there cause it is worship and God is pleased with good work. God blesses good work. And not just with work should we be wholehearted, let’s be present in our conversations, at events, in activities, being fully committed to whatever we are doing per time.

Have only a few goals.

I know it’s tempting to have a whole new year ahead of you, you want to maximize everyday but reality isn’t picture perfect, some days will be slow. In that vein, I’d advice you only set a few goals for the year at most three, I would pick just one that I know is very important if I were you. Less is more. An advantage of having just one goal is focus. If all your attention is on just one thing, you’ve basically made failure an impossibility. 


I was going to say learn, but then aren’t we all learning, and doing nothing with what we’ve learnt? I used to be that way; a cosmos of knowledge, yet it didn’t show much by how I lived. There’s this slim gap between learning or knowing something and actually doing it, that gap is growth. You have to grow. How will everything you are reading now help you this year? Decide to use it to grow. Actually try it out. Everybody can read, not many people grow.

Be forgiving

In 2019, people will do crappy things to you, they will step on your toes and so will you step on the toes of others. Decide to be the one that shows grace. Decide to be forgiving. Don’t be like that rich man in one of Jesus’ parables who having been forgiven his own debt, refused to forgive someone who was owing him (Matthew 18:23-35). Jesus has forgiven all our trespasses so lets also expend that grace to others. It doesn’t mean we should keep negative and toxic relationships but it does mean we shouldn’t hold whatever they’ve done against them. Let your heart be light.

Be at peace with yourself

Don’t fight yourself. This year, be on your own side, be in your own corner. Don’t hold grudges against yourself, forgive yourself, be kind to yourself, because you can only love others as much as you love yourself. So take your time to find peace with who you are and motivation to improve where need be. Be your own biggest cheerleader.

Find causes for celebration

There will be many reasons to be sad but there will also be many reasons to celebrate and be glad. Always find causes of celebration. Look for the silver lining. There’s something to be happy about, there’s something to dance about, there’s something to be thankful for. Throw a party, it doesn’t have to be large,  share a bottle of wine with your spouse. Treat the whole family to a nice dinner, have a dance party with your younger sister, have a pillow fight with your roommate, buy yourself a gift for aceing that test. Do it! Celebrate!

Be there for someone

Many times we are whining about nobody being there for us, perhaps that’s because we’ve never been there for anyone. I challenge you this year to be there for someone, take care of someone, love someone. They don’t have to be more than one person, just be there. Be a friend.

Enjoy the journey

We are all on different journeys this year. Some of us are getting a degree, some of us are getting married, some of us are going for service, some of us are becoming parents. There are many bumps on the road of these journeys and it’s  easy to get distracted by that, but there are also great views. There are people to meet and new things to explore. Let’s endeavor to enjoy the journey.  Let breathe in and breath out and enjoy the view.

Develop an habit of spending time with the God daily

Spending time with God consistently is the best decision I have ever made in my life. It changes everything. Your day has direction. It has purpose. You are stable. You are settled. You have peace. You have joy. You experience miracles. You enjoy life. Spend more time with God this year, grow spiritually. Read your bible, go to church, pray, if you give yourself whole heartedly to these things with simplicity and an open heart, I promise you your life will not remain the same.

Have the very best 2019. God bless you!

Love & Love —O